REAL TALK. body-image.


Can I address the elephant in the room? Do you see it? I’m sure you noticed, but you’re too nice to say anything…

It’s right here. I. AM. THE ELEPHANT. 🐘 Yes, it’s true. I’m a little fatter than I used to be. 😜 BUT in my defense, having my third baby + pandemic + lack of motivation = a plumper Kara. πŸ™‚ Can anyone else relate? πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ Okay, I know I’m not obese (I think?) but everyone has their threshold of what’s normal to them, and when you start to feel yucky about yourself, it’s not fun. This is how I was feeling all summer. “What did I do about it,” you ask? Welp, first, I wallowed in self pity. Then, I went on a shopping spree for new swim suits to fit my bigger body (and cover up more of it). πŸ™ˆ Then, I had a little breakdown after being in a bathing suit nearly every day on vacation. Sheesh, I’m a mess.

And it’s not that I just started feeling bad about myself. I’ve always struggled with this. Have you ever heard this quote?

Self-image funny quote
Self-image funny quote

Baha! πŸ˜‚ I love this quote, because it’s so true for me. At least I’ve looked back on pictures of myself and had this thought….”Man, I used to be skinny but, EVEN THEN, I thought I was fat!” I could always pick myself apart, find my shortcomings compared to others, and felt that I was falling short. Anyone else? I know most girls struggle with this, and over the summer, I was struggling, big time — even as an adult!

But then, THEN, you guys… I felt Jesus nudging and calling me to look to him. And this is what I did:

  1. I reminded myself what the Bible says about who I am…

I am HIS:

“Do not fear. I have redeemed you. I have summoned you. You are mine.”

Isaiah 43:1


“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Psalm 139:14


“For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son,
that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life.”

John 3:16


“I have told you these things so that you will be filled with joy.
Yes, your joy will overflow!”

John 15:11

I am VICTORIOUS in Christ:

But thank God! He gives us victory over sin and death through our Lord Jesus Christ.”

1 Corinthians 15:57

I am created with PURPOSE:

Perhaps this is the moment for which you’ve been created.”

Esther 4:14

I am made WHOLE:

β€œSo you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority.”

Colossians 2:10


β€œGod decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.”

Ephesians 1:5
  1. I read the book “Breaking Free from Body Shame: Dare to Reclaim What God Has Named Good,” by Jess Connoly, linked here, which was given to me at the *perfect* time. ☺️😘 See excerpt below that I just really like. ❀️

“In the Bible there is no mention of Mary Magdalene’s thighs, Deborah’s teeth, Ruth’s waistline, Anna the phrophetess’s forehead, Elisabeth’s stretch marks, Eve’s hair, Lois’ skin, Martha’s tunic size, or the symmetry of Miriam’s face. Because the Lord looks at the heart. Their faithfulness was not defined by their bodies, their capacity to be used by God was not defined by their bodies, and their bodies were never the most interesting or compelling parts of their story. Because the Lord looks at the heart.”

Jess Connoly, Author of Breaking Free from Body Shame
  1. I UNFOLLOWED a bunch of people/celebrities who only seemed to post pictures of their perfect bodies and flawless faces (*eyeroll*πŸ™„!) Ain’t nobody got time for that garbage! 😝 But for real, the older I get the more I realize that what we choose to take in MATTERS and makes a difference in how we feel (self-worth, self-talk, etc.) We need to choose to take in good and uplifting things, and unfollow things/people that makes us feel worse about ourselves. Amen?!

  1. I started seeing a therapist (for many reasons, but this was one). I still can’t believe it. I HAVE A THERAPIST. It’s been a game changer. Everyone should get themselves a therapist! I ❀️ mine.

So, what have I learned? A lot. But mostly that I need Jesus. Every day. And every day, I need to work on rooting these truth’s DEEP in me, which is a constant battle. I definitely haven’t mastered having a healthier body-image, but the steps above have helped. I hope and pray they may just help someone else reading this, too. πŸ™

XO! Huge hugs! ❀

~ Kara

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